In Memory of

Alex David Jacobsen

July 14, 1989 - December 2, 2020
From: Spencer, IA
Alex David Jacobsen

Alex David Jacobsen

Born: July 14, 1989
Died: December 2, 2020
Age: 31

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Every time Alex listened to music, he requested Cat Stevens, and now more than ever, one of his song lyrics rings true:

“Oh very young, what will you leave us this time
You're only dancin' on this earth for a short while
And though your dreams may toss and turn you now
They will vanish away like your dads best jeans
Denim blue, faded up to the sky
And though you want them to last forever
You know they never will
You know they never will
And the patches make the goodbye harder still
Oh very young what will you leave us this time
There'll never be a better chance to change your mind
And if you want this world to see a better day
Will you carry the words of love with you
Will you, will you ride the great white bird into heaven”

On December 2nd, the anniversary of the death of his beloved grandfather, Larry Olson, Alex took his own life.

From a young boy, he always felt there was something different or off about himself. He was incredibly shy and lacked self esteem.

His adult life was plagued with mental hardship which included many diagnoses, among them high functioning autism and bipolar, that affected his relationships and his ability to do what others often found easy.

He had many passions in life that he enjoyed when he could.

He was a motorhead and enjoyed driving heavy machinery.

He had his CDL and loved to drive the grain truck and wagon, the tractor, the semi during farming season.

In the summer he mowed lawns and in the winter he ran the snow plow for Jacobsen Homes Corp.

Being on Lake Okoboji in his loud red boat with the sun on his back was one of his favorite pastimes as well as collecting all kinds of cars and trucks and campers and ATVs to park in his backyard on the Little Sioux River.

The Cummins motor was an obsession for Alex. Always Chevy over Ford but Dodge over overall.

He loved to get machines stuck in the mud behind his mom’s house.

He was kind of an in and out kind of guy, never staying long as he needed his time alone. He was both a quiet introvert that was soothed by the outdoors and an outspoken jokester that made people roll with laughter.

He liked to barter with people for deals and search Autotrader and Craigslist for vehicles and boats, many that didn’t even have motors.

During his young adulthood, Alex came to know the Lord. He was loyal to his family and always entertained and involved with his nieces and nephews and siblings.

He and his brother Drew were as close as brothers could be and no stone went unturned in our family’s attempts to save him from himself.

Alex graduated from the University of Iowa with a degree in Entrepreneurism.

During his time in Iowa City, he drove the Cambus and would purposely drive through puddles to splash the students.

No stranger to pain, Alex often reached out to others.

He always wanted a large grove to keep all kinds of machines and we imagine him up there changing oil and filters and searching for and purchasing all kinds of vehicles.

He liked the Minnesota Twins, Iowa Basketball, country music, driving country roads and looking at acreages.

There was no one more hysterically funny and blunt on this earth. He could spew truth, sometimes the most haunting truth, sometimes the most hilarious, like nobody else.

He was an unparalleled prankster at his best.

He had a long haired Dachshund sidekick named Cletus that he loved immensely and comforted him and watched over him.

If we can learn anything from my Alex, it’s that mental illness is real, it doesn’t discriminate, and it takes some of the best people down in it’s ugly swirling drain.

Alex was troubled for a very long time and our family prays that he is finally able to see the beautiful man he was and is, to feel free from his almost daily pain, to laugh with the angels, and to rest.

In lieu of flowers, the family has established the Alex Jacobsen Memorial Fund to benefit mental health care in Clay County.

Your loving memories of Alex and sympathy are a great comfort to our family and we thank any and all whose path he crossed and showed him love and acceptance.

 Alex will live on in his mother (Julie and Randy Jorgenson) of Spencer, his father (David and Leann Jacobsen) of Spencer, Niki (Brandon) Conover of Iowa City, Brittany (Ben) Berger of Iowa City, Drew Jacobsen of Spencer, his Grandmother Shirley Olson of Okoboji, his five nieces and nephews and his dog Cletus.

SERVICES
Memorial Services will be held on Saturday, June 12, 2021 from 4:00 to 7:00 pm at the Church on West Park Street in Spencer (formerly Gary's On The River).

In lieu of Flowers, a memorial fund has been established by the family to benefit Mental Health Care in Clay County.

MEMORIALS MAY BE SENT TO:

Alex Jacobsen Memorial Fund
Box 180
Spencer, Iowa 51301
INTERMENT
Burial will be held privately at a later date.

Condolences

Tuesday, December 15, 2020 at 5:12 PM
“Dear David,
We didn't meet the boys until your wedding as you know but I know our boys have kept in touch with them through FB. William and Charles were just saying how they should go and spend time with Alex and Drew during the "quiet time" at our company before we received your email. We were all so sorry and shocked when you sent us the news. Now through an email from cousin Debbie, we find out about their mother, Julie. David, I can only imagine what you are all going through right now, especially Drew and his sisters. My younger sister went to heaven last year and it was a difficult road for me to travel and I still miss her every day. Remember that the Lord said he will never leave us or forsake us, so you are never alone. Draw close to him and he will draw close to you. So don't run from him, but run to him. Let him comfort you, Drew and your daughters in a way that no one else can. Please know that we love you and think of you often and we are praying for you all to get through this unexpected journey. With deepest condolences, Theresea Jacobsen ”
- Theresea Jacobsen
Monday, December 14, 2020 at 11:31 AM
“Deepest sympathy for all of you in this sad, sad time of grief. So very sorry.”
- Maureen Horsley
Sunday, December 13, 2020 at 9:16 AM
“My heart goes out to all the family members of Alex. I am sending hugs and prayers during this difficult time.”
- Barbara DeRosa
Sunday, December 13, 2020 at 9:16 AM
“Our sincerest condolences to the entire family. Keeping you all in prayer. So very sorry for your loss. God bless. ”
- Paul & Christina Caton
Thursday, December 10, 2020 at 8:00 AM
“The Earth has lost such a beautiful soul..my heart aches for your loss. Sending so much love & healing to you and all who were fortunate enough to know & love Alex. He will never be forgotten. My deepest sympathies, Andrea”
- Andrea Holmquist
Thursday, December 10, 2020 at 8:00 AM
“Wow, I have not ever read such beautiful tribute d understanding of mental illness! No I did not ever have the privilege of meeting Alex, however this was my loss. Just want the family and friends of Alex to know my thoughts and prayers are with you all! FLY high Alex, may you rest in peace.”
- Annie Garnjobst
Thursday, December 10, 2020 at 8:00 AM
“My heart aches with yours....& yet as you so elegantly wrote...the peace he must be experiencing in his Father's arms is reassuring...the weeping & wailing, the undescribable pain...the numbness....the confusion of emotions...may be a glimpse of what Alex dealt with every day....I pray for healing of hearts....feel God's embrace here on earth...you are loved...Theone Quattlebaum”
- Theone Quattlebaum
Thursday, December 10, 2020 at 7:59 AM
“Sending my deepest condolences. ”
- Kirsten De Rosa
Thursday, December 10, 2020 at 7:59 AM
“Deepest sympathies to your entire family. Praying you feel God's loving hands filled with peace, strength, and hope. ”
- Kathy Barton
Wednesday, December 9, 2020 at 7:50 AM
“Dave, Julie, And family. We are so sorry for your loss. Alex was a wonderful human being ”
- Colleen and Bill Gerdeman
Wednesday, December 9, 2020 at 7:50 AM
“We are so sorry for your loss.... but we pray with you that Alex has found the peace that alluded him in his earthly life. May God wrap his arms around his family and hold them close.
David and Jane Kruse”
- David and Jane Kruse
Wednesday, December 9, 2020 at 7:49 AM
“Nikki, I am so sorry for your loss. I know first hand what you are going through right now. There will be a long road ahead of you and your family but keep your chin held up and remember that the pain no longer hurts Alex.”
- Deanna Huberg/Johnson
Tuesday, December 8, 2020 at 3:43 PM
“With deep sympathy and many prayers for all whose hearts are aching.”
- Marcia Steffen
Tuesday, December 8, 2020 at 1:07 PM
“I offer my heartfelt sympathy, gone to soon. Mental illness needs to be talked about, and, yes, Mental Health Care needs more support and funding. I feel your sadness. I am very sorry. Marilyn Zellaha”
- marilyn k zellaha
Tuesday, December 8, 2020 at 1:07 PM
“Dave, Julie & family, I'm so very sorry to hear the news about Alex. I know that you loved him with all your heart and did everything possible to help him. May you find comfort knowing that he is no longer in pain and with Our Heavenly Father. May you rest in peace Alex and peace to your family and friends. ”
- Tami Mugge Diekmann
Tuesday, December 8, 2020 at 11:46 AM
“Jake - On behalf of your #GCE Leadership Iowa family, please know you and your family are in all of our thoughts and prayers!”
- Jason Gross
Tuesday, December 8, 2020 at 8:08 AM
“We were so sorry to hear of your loss. We didn't know Alex, but we can tell that you, his family, loved and cared about him deeply. You are all in our thoughts and prayers.”
- Sue Brugman
Monday, December 7, 2020 at 6:27 PM
“i wish i could change things im so sorry ”
- danica
Monday, December 7, 2020 at 9:31 AM
“No amount of words can express the pain that you are going through. We are sending you love and prayers, and hope you are able to find strength during this dark time. Please accept our deepest sympathy for your loss, and know that we are with you through difficult time.”
- Baltes Family
Monday, December 7, 2020 at 8:25 AM
“Julie, Dave, Niki, Brittany, Drew and families, beautiful video tribute and write up from Niki! I can't even begin to understand your pain but please accept my prayers and condolences. So very sorry.”
- Susan Wedel6
Monday, December 7, 2020 at 8:25 AM
“I remember Alex from Sunday School. My prayers to all of you. What a beautiful message you've written.”
- Pat Campbell
Monday, December 7, 2020 at 8:25 AM
“Dear ones,
Please forgive this trespass from an unknown.
Good buddy of mine from Spencer, now in N.H.
still reads his hometown newspaper. He was grieved to read of your heartbreaking tragedy. He did not go into details, but I did. Maybe will seem less of a stranger if you knew that Vermillion SD is my hometown and I know Spencer and Lake Okaboji. I love Cat Stevens and OH VERY YOUNG is my very favorite. Your Remembrance and Tribute Video were exquisitely, perfectly beautiful, even through my flood of tears. Would beg God to take me and bring back Alex. If you are able, will humbly plea your favor. Would you please wrap your arms around Alex's brother and hold him tightly.
He very likely won't ask 'why this hug just right now'. If he does ask, please tell him that the hug is from a friend of Alex. The hug enveloping Alex, those are the arms of God. May Our Lord ease your pain and mend your broken hearts.
This I send in Love.

With deepest Sympathy and the most sincere of
Condolences...
I remain ever Alex's great good friend.
Doug Steckler”
- Douglas M. Steckler
Monday, December 7, 2020 at 8:24 AM
“My heart is so heavy for you all. May peace find you and hold you close.”
- Jenny Jacobsen
Monday, December 7, 2020 at 8:24 AM
“Dave, We're so sorry for your loss. Please know our thoughts and prayers are with you. ”
- Craig and Gail Poulsen
Monday, December 7, 2020 at 8:24 AM
“My deepest & heartfelt condolences to all of the Jacobsen family and to Alex’s best friends !!!
- Rhonda Olson
Sunday, December 6, 2020 at 12:09 PM
“I’m so sorry to hear about Alex. I didn’t know him too well, but I’m glad I got to meet him. You guys are in my prayers. ”
- Debbie Alexander
Sunday, December 6, 2020 at 12:09 PM
“We are so sorry for your loss. Our prayers and condolences to all.”
- Rhonda and Rickey Bloom
Sunday, December 6, 2020 at 12:09 PM
“No words... just deep condolences to Alex's family! -- May God be with you, Carl & Stephanie Napp”
- Carl & Stephanie napp
Sunday, December 6, 2020 at 12:09 PM
“We are so sorry for your family’s loss! We pray for your peace and comfort knowing Alex is in a better place and no longer suffering. RIP Alex. ”
- Shane & Tarrel Habben
Sunday, December 6, 2020 at 12:09 PM
“I only knew Alex for a short time, but his loss has hit me deeply. I cant imagine what you are going through. My condolences to your family.”
- David Lyons
Sunday, December 6, 2020 at 12:09 PM
“I’m so sorry to hear of the passing of Alex. He was such a gentle soul with quick wit and full of pranks. My thoughts and prayers are with you all. ”
- Jamie (Helmke) Bousquet
Sunday, December 6, 2020 at 12:09 PM
“My sincere condolences to you and your family. ”
- Nicole Wyman
Sunday, December 6, 2020 at 12:09 PM
“Prayers for your family”
- Jenny Rinken
Sunday, December 6, 2020 at 12:09 PM
“I am so sorry for your loss. Nobody should have to go through something like this. My thoughts and prayers go out to your entire family. ”
- Thomas Jacobsen
Sunday, December 6, 2020 at 12:09 PM
“Dave, Julie, and family. Our hearts are heavy knowing the grief you feel. I know the true Lord will welcome him into his loving arms, where Alex will find eternal love and peace. Thinking of and praying for you all. Love, Ted & Diane”
- Ted and Diane Larsen
Sunday, December 6, 2020 at 12:09 PM
“Wishing you PEACE to bring all of you comfort.
COURAGE to face the days ahead, and
LOVING MEMORIES to hold forever in your hearts.

I did not know Alex, but as I read his obit...I felt the LOVE
that only family can give. My sympathies go out to you all.

- Audrey Schmidt
Sunday, December 6, 2020 at 12:09 PM
“Dave, Julie and Crew: We are so broken with you; covering you in prayer. My last visit with Alex at a local Mexican restaurant was a few months ago. He had me rolling with laughter as well as venturing into deep waters of conversation. The last time I saw him he had a huge grin on his face while proudly showing off his truck and topper. He yelled out to as he drove away: "PRAY FOR ME!" I do not fully understand the ways of God. I only know to trust Him and continue to TRUST HIM! Big hugs and covering you in prayer. - Susan Christensen & Family ”
- Susan & Tim Christensen
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 3:22 PM
“So sorry for your family's loss our thoughts and prayers are with you all. ”
- Brad and Beth Blair
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 12:36 PM
“So sorry to hear about Alex. I found him to be a very nice well mannered young man that would do anything to help someone. May god be with the family. RIP man. ”
- Steve Hall
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 12:36 PM
“Dear Julie and Family--We are saddened to hear of your tremendous loss. May God and your good memories carry you through this difficult time. Our prayers are with you all.”
- Ruben & Donnis (Eninger) Stugart
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 12:36 PM
“We send our condolences and prayers to family. A great loss for everyone. ”
- Curtis and Linda Alexander
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 12:36 PM
“Niki and Family-I am so sorry for the pain and grief you are experiencing. ”
- Tamara Recker
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 12:01 PM
“Shirley Olson, Julie and Randy, Lesa and Craig Manning

What a special young man. He will be missed. Praying for you all.”
- Dianne and Cecil Roberts
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 11:49 AM
“The Jacobsen family was a 2nd family to me growing up. Many memories I have of their beautiful home and family. I will always remember Alex being the sweetest little brother, along with Drew. He was so kind, smart, and loved his family. He will be greatly missed and I wish much peace to the entire family. ”
- Angie Palm
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 11:49 AM
“I'm heartbroken. Alex was always so kind to me and I'll never forget the fun nights where we partied together or taking out old cars into the fields and laughing so hard we'd cry. He's in my fondest memories of growing up in Iowa. I hope you found peace brother, love always. ”
- Sam Mugge
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 11:49 AM
“I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Our hearts go out to you and the whole family. I wish you strength and peace. ”
- Terri, Christopher, Max and Lauren Mahoney
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 11:16 AM
“To the Jacobsen Family
Our deepest sympathy for your loss, we are all sorry that we didn’t know Alex better.
The Duane Alexander family”
- Duane Alexander
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 10:28 AM
“Our sincere sympathy and prayers to your family. My his heart fly free and be at rest.”
- Tom and Carol Parks
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 10:08 AM
“Our sincere sympathy and prayers to your family. ”
- Carol and Tom Parks
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 10:08 AM
“I am so sorry for your loss, Alex was a great person and there will never be anyone quite like him. Rest peacefully Alex, we miss you down here ❤”
- Thomas Westfall
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 10:07 AM
“Julie, Dave and families,
We are so very sorry to learn of Alex's passing. What a beautiful and vulnerable soul. It sounds as though he lived his life the very best he knew how. Our hearts break for you all of you.
Bob and Kaelynn Gould”
- Bob and Kaelynn Gould
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:41 AM
“Sending continuous prayers of comfort for all of you! What a beautiful obituary celebrating Alex.
Luana & JJ Nair & Tori Wolff

- Luana Nair
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:41 AM
“Praying for the family ”
- Jessica elg
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:41 AM
“My deepest condolences .....

Many good laughs and memories with Alex and the Jacobsen family - all momentairly faded by these terribly news...

Lot’s of thoughts from Denmark”
- Soren Danielsen
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:41 AM
“Julie I'm sure you don't remember me but I used to babysit for you and your brother in Royal. I'm so very sorry to hear of the death of your son. Mental illness is a terrible disease and something we just don't understand. I hope you have peace and he knew you loved him. God Bless you and your family. Jean
- Jean Baxter Tripp
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:40 AM
“What a beautiful tribute obituary for this sweet beautiful soul of a guy!! I am heartbroken and sorry to read it.......I pray for strength, peace, and comfort for all of his family and his sweet pup!! He always sent me pictures of Cletus as he knew I loved dogs. Alex was a geniune guy with a big heart.....just a busy, restless brain. I will always have fond memories of him and feel broken that the world makes some people feel out of place. Go with God Alex.....you are dearly missed here but now you have the best view. Blessings to his family......he was a blessing!”
- Stacey Halling-Caskey
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:18 AM
“im sorry. i love you!
- danica
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:18 AM
“Dave, so sorry to hear about your son. My thought and prayers are with you.”
- Lavon Montgomery
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:17 AM
“We are heartbroken for your family. Holding you in our hearts and prayers.”
- John and Tammi Goede
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:17 AM
“Fly free Alex. Your are a beautiful soul that will never be forgotten ”
- Tammi Herbold
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:17 AM
“Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. ”
- Dan and Cheryl Muhlbauer
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:13 AM
“I know loss all too well and know the familiarity of losing someone so young impacted with mental illness. In this time, just know I'm sending my condolences and I'm sorry. He sounds like an amazing individual. God Bless you all!”
- Jennifer Kyte
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:13 AM
“My heart goes out to Alex for all the pain he endured. Many thoughts and warm hugs to my friend Niki and the rest of his supportive and loving family. Rest in peace dear Alex.”
- Salomé Phillmann
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:13 AM
“I’m saddered to know Alex is gone! But he now is truly happy and home! I liked his wit and smile! And perhaps we saw more good from him , than he saw in himself! My sincere sympathy to his family and all the friends that loved him so! ”
- Jean Pingel
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:12 AM
“I'm So Sorry For Your Loss, Alex Sounds Like A Very Kind, Caring Young Man. I Did Not Know Alex, But His Obituary Touched My Heart. I'm Thankful That You Are Talking About His Mental Illness. It Needs To Be Talked About And Not Covered Up. We Need To Help Them And Let Them Know That They Are Loved 💝 Like With Any Illness, We Need To Support Them. I Pray For The Family To Receive Strength Through Our Savior At This Sad Time. Alex Has His ANGEL WING'S And Is Flying High, No more Pain, But Always Missed 💖 ”
- Connie Verner Khounlo
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:12 AM
“I just met Alex for the first time this past summer at a mutual friends. He was the funniest yet most truthful spoken guy I have ever met. Cletus was his bestfriend and went everywhere with him. I will miss the lawn mowers, ATV's, trucks and whatever new toys Alex had to show. He was a great guy with a big heart. This saddens me and my heart breaks for him and his family. Our mental health care in the world today needs a lot of support and funding. I hope you are pain free Alex and flying high. Rest in peace. ”
- Abby Camp
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:11 AM
“I am so sorry for your loss. I have nothing but great memories of Alex. May he live on in all of you and may you find comfort during these hard times. ”
- Allison Wollmuth
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:11 AM
“A beautifully written obituary and tribute. You're in my thoughts and prayers.”
- Kay Rose
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:10 AM
“Please accept our sincere condolences. We pray that he is finally resting peacefully in Gods arms. ”
- Pam and Steve Santage
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:10 AM
“Dear Dave, Julie, and families;
My deepest sympathies to you and your families on Alex's sudden departure. I will remember his sparkling eyes, and sometimes cautious, but always warm smile. He was ever a gentlemen. May he find real peace, now that his earthly toils are over.
Sincerely, jt ”
- Jeffrey Thomas
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:10 AM
“I’m am sadden by this news and deepest prayers for the Jacobsen Family. I got the pleasure of working with Alex for 12 years and we have so many good memories. He definitely had a huge heart and was a joy to work with. I hope he is at peace as I know his struggles was real. We will miss you Alex!!! ”
- Candace McGuire
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:09 AM
“I went to school with Alex, he was a great person to know. I'm sorry for your loss may God keep watch over you in this time of hardship. ”
- Julie Ash
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:09 AM
“Dave & Julie, my heart goes out to you as parents. You did all you could do but some things we cannot fix. Prayers for peace and healing.”
- Myra Coover
Saturday, December 5, 2020 at 8:09 AM
“My heart hurts for all of you. ”
- Vickie Peters
Friday, December 4, 2020 at 4:18 PM
“Dave, Drew and Family - I was shocked and sad to hear about Alex. May he be at peace. You have my sympathy and will be thinking about you all.”
- Matt Starkson
Friday, December 4, 2020 at 4:08 PM
“Julie, Dave and families, so sorry to hear about Alex. Know you are in our thoughts and prayers. May God wrap his loving arms around you all”
- Kent and Cindy Langenfeld
Friday, December 4, 2020 at 3:02 PM
“My heartfelt sympathy on the passing of Alex from his earthly home. Sending love and hugs to all... RIP beautiful soul”
- Melissa Fox
Friday, December 4, 2020 at 3:01 PM
“My deepest sympathy for your loss and many, many prayers to the Jacobsen family during this time. ”
- MELISSA LOONTJER
Friday, December 4, 2020 at 12:55 PM
“So sorry to the Jacobsen Family. Alex was always a good friend throughout many many years! Such a good soul gone too soon. May he rest in peace now. My deepest sympathies to the family. ”
- Cristina Besaw
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